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A Pandemic 2 years and 20 lbs later…3 Tips to get started losing that pandemic pooch!

July 1, 2022

Mia The Diva

Hey Divas, 

Hello July!

We are officially full swing into summer, things are somewhat back to “ normal “ and we are outside.

I’m starting my journey yet again going into a new season. I’m finding myself in the middle of my life and not quite exactly where I want to be.

Between being at home during the pandemic having time to think and just having a full circle WTF moment. Here l am.

So I invite you as I go on this journey for the next 365 days towards a better self, eating smarter and getting this booodddy yadddy yaddy together!

This time around I am learning to work with my body and not against it, setting unrealistic goals & setting expectations that just were not realistic long term.

I had to take an honest look at myself to see what can be done so that I can look and feel at my personal best.

It’s been a journey over the years. I won’t blame it all on Ms. Rona, but along the way I’m learning what works and what doesn’t for me.

What I like and what I don’t like. I had to dig deep into where my negative feelings were coming from, my relationship with food, my relationship with myself, my body and other people.

I learned there were things I was holding onto that I needed to let go of. When we hold too tight onto things we are unable to grow.

I’ve learned how to embrace this space of life that I am in right now and all of its glorious mess.

I’m doing this for me, for my health, for my future self and to inspire others to pull it together themselves along the way.

3 Easy Tips to start losing those pandemic pounds & start gaining your life back!

  • Do what you can with what you have, you don’t need a gym membership to do a quick 30 second plank that can build up over time to one minute, two etc. It cost nothing to take a quick brisk walk around the block.
  • Track what your eating though an app or journal. There are so many apps out there to choose which one works best for you. I find writing it down and journaling works best for me because it allows me to process my thoughts and learn my triggers.
  • Stay Motivated and hold yourself accountable. This can be done by setting some goals for yourself using the SMART formula. Make sure it is specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and keep a timer on it to give yourself a deadline to achieve that goal!

It can be too easy to focus too much on immediate gratification;

“‘Like l wanna lose 50 lbs. by Friday!”

Planning for the short, middle & long term can help us set different priorities for different stages of our journey.

Having realistic goals, setting milestones and steps needed to achieve each goal will hold ourselves accountable over the long haul.

Motivation is temporary to get that “ thing “ we want or desire but it’s all about those new habits dear diva that will carry us through! Small changes can add up and consistency is key.

You can Follow a diva on all the things @flybyjuly

Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You.

Mia The Diva 

Are you your Biggest Critic or Biggest Fan?

June 21, 2022

Mia The Diva

Hey Divas,

Sometimes we are our own Biggest Critic;

If anyone ever talked to us the way that we talk to ourselves we would not be friends with them.

So why do we hold such value on the opinions of people who do little to nothing for us, even people we don’t even know?

Like the saying goes everyone has an opinion like everyone has a ________ fill in the blank.

It’s just an opinion and it can change like the weather.

Take heart dear diva and be kind to yourself, the world is hard enough on us. 

We do not have to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. 

However many of us, WE are carrying the weight of our lives.

  • The weight of all the pain.
  • The weight of all the hurt.
  • The weight of the forgotten dream.
  • The weight of the heart-break.
  • The weight of missed opportunity.
  • The weight of grief.
  • The weight of self hate.
  • The weight of being late because it takes everything in you to get out of the bed.
  • The weight of the diet that never actually starts on Monday.
  • The weight of giving up before even getting started.
  • The weight of never going swimming because your thighs jiggle and don’t like how you look in a bathing suit.
  • The weight of laughing and pointing jokes at yourself to take the focus off you.
  • The weight of saying that you are “ Good “ but feel like you’re dying from the inside out so you don’t have to do anything about it.
  • The weight of making ourselves a joke of every conversation to ease our anxiety.
  • The weight of success.
  • The weight of failure.
  • The weight of never enjoying the beach because of the stretch marks on your stomach and hips.
  • The weight of never being yourself.
  • The weight of trying to be the perfect daughter, sister, wife, partner, mother.
  • The weight of not letting go.
  • The weight of the pressure to look “ perfect “
  • The weight of hiding yourself from the fear of being real.
  • The weight of years of hating yourself through self-sabotage.
  • The weight of knowing in your heart of hearts that you are imperfect but perfectly you.
  • The weight of knowing you deserve better.
  • The weight of knowing your are enough and always have been.
  • The weight of surrounding yourself with people who have limited beliefs.
  • The weight of not being free.
  • The weight of not holding ourselves accountable.

The good news is we can turn this around; it’s never too late to become your very own Biggest Fan!

It’s never too late to be what you might have been. – George Elliot

Get quiet with yourself, by visualizing your best future self try a daily check in with that Diva and ask her what you can do today to get an inch closer to whom you want to become.

Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You! 

Mia The Diva 

Hot Girl Summer Goals & Hoochie Daddy short shorts! How did we do?

June 15, 2022

Mia The Diva

Hey Divas,

Summer is here!

Have we reached our Hot Girl Summer Goals Divas? Fly Guys, how we sportin those short shorts?

The burning question: Can I reshape my body in my forties? So as of the end of the summer I will be on the other side of 40. As I approach my 45th trip around the sun by the end of summer I don’t know the short answer to this question for me but I am willing to make this body do what it does this next round.

So last year I set out a goal and created a whole IG account dedicated to my personal wellness journey so much has happened in a year although I have made great strides. I find myself physically in the same space I was a year ago.

Not a good look for a diva! 

The point is Life is going to happen. Sh*t is going to happen. I would find myself pausing after every life kick up and set back.

Life is going to happen, there will always be something and things will not always go as planned. It’s in the unexplained, the unexpected and the things that just do not make any sense is where we find our stride.

Sometimes we have to humble ourselves and put down our super hero capes, our fantasy of life was to be and just be like hey, I’m here. I’m alive. As long as I have breath in my body there are things that I need to be doing.

My presence is enough. All we have to do is live and die. It really isn’t that complicated NOT survive and die but LIVE and die.

Giving myself some grace. I have learned so much this past year and will be going in with an eyes wide open approach.

I’ve learned the stuff and have done the things not starting over but starting again. Knowledge means absolutely nothing if you are not putting it into action.

So here we are a fresh start again, we can always begin to begin again but your girl is tired.

This will definitely be a year of focus and I focus on not only my body but my whole life. I invite you as I go on this journey for the next 365 days so if you are in a space of life that you just need to get it together this is the space for you, the space for us. 

So if you’re just getting into your 40’s or it’s near looming in the bushes or maybe you’re knee deep in your 40’s like me or maybe you’re about to wrap this decade like a Christmas Tree heading into that Fabulous 50 season this is our time Divas! 

We have had our good times, the love of our life, the family or desired having one at one point, we have made the mistakes, have lost loved ones, have had our hearts broken, have learned the lessons & have ultimately grown-up.

We are here ladies. We are here.

Fly Guys this message applies to you too! We see you and them “ Hoochie Daddy short shorts. ”

I use the word heal and healing sparingly because we were never broken. 

We grow & We grown. Yea I said it. 

I totally feel like I have super powers in this space of life. I feel the most comfortable in my skin and self assured. I have a complete acceptance of life and it’s f___kery.

AND you know what.

– It’s ok.

Like the saying goes it is what it is until it’s not.

Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!

Mia The Diva

You can’t F*ck up anything that is meant for you

June 1, 2022

Mia The Diva

Hey Divas,

Hello June!

In the words of my Grandma Mercedes;

“ What is for you is for you.”

Sometimes we over think things, life happens and everything that happens is meant to happen even when we don’t understand it.

Everything is eventual.

So with that said you can’t mess anything up even when you try. Everything has a way of working out one way or another.

Life is about the moments, feeling all the feels & true happiness comes from overcoming what you thought would break you.

I’m in a space of life that l am thinking back. I have a few regrets, a lot of good times, a few hard times, times l was extremely happy and times l was extremely sad.

Through it all l’m exactly where l need to be. We can get caught up in the idea that we had of life and how life was expected to play out for us. Ultimately we have no control over any of this as much as we like to think we do.

We have control over how we are showing up for ourselves and we have control over what we stand for.

We have control over our own standards & know that we can never rise above it.

So when you’re getting caught up in your feelings & self judgement take heart that you can’t mess it up when you show up for yourself and your life.

Every morning we wake up with breath in our body it’s an opportunity to show up & set a new standard to be a little better than we were the day before.

Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You ~

Mia The Diva

Don’t Let The Hard Days Win

May 23, 2022

Mia The Diva

I read post on my time line that was discussing political view points but ended with;

“ Anyway, never forget, even at your lowest point you’re living someone else’s dream.”

I have been back and forth with this blog for years. Somehow when things are off and get off track in my life. I always find my way back to this space. There is a saying that life will teach you the same lessons over and over until you learn them.

We all have to start somewhere. No matter where you are in life or for the purpose of this blog on your wellness journey you are Goals to someone out there and have a universal responsibility to show up in your life. I always joke with a friend of mine that she is “Goals” to me because she is able to wear dresses with her back out! LoL

A pivotal moment in any big girl’s wellness journey is not needing a seatbelt extender!

Do you know how many people can effortlessly fit comfortably in an airplane seat everyday who think their life and health are in shambles?

Perspective is everything. We all have our ish.

There are going to be some hard days some great days some WTF days. We are all living a version of someone’s best life but our hard days are the days that will ultimately define who we are and what we are made of.

One decision can change your entire life.

Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!

Mia The Diva