Hey Divas,
Hello June!
In the words of my Grandma Mercedes;
“ What is for you is for you.”
Sometimes we over think things, life happens and everything that happens is meant to happen even when we don’t understand it.
Everything is eventual.
So with that said you can’t mess anything up even when you try. Everything has a way of working out one way or another.
Life is about the moments, feeling all the feels & true happiness comes from overcoming what you thought would break you.
I’m in a space of life that l am thinking back. I have a few regrets, a lot of good times, a few hard times, times l was extremely happy and times l was extremely sad.
Through it all l’m exactly where l need to be. We can get caught up in the idea that we had of life and how life was expected to play out for us. Ultimately we have no control over any of this as much as we like to think we do.
We have control over how we are showing up for ourselves and we have control over what we stand for.
We have control over our own standards & know that we can never rise above it.
So when you’re getting caught up in your feelings & self judgement take heart that you can’t mess it up when you show up for yourself and your life.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You ~
Mia The Diva
I read post on my time line that was discussing political view points but ended with;
“ Anyway, never forget, even at your lowest point you’re living someone else’s dream.”
I have been back and forth with this blog for years. Somehow when things are off and get off track in my life. I always find my way back to this space. There is a saying that life will teach you the same lessons over and over until you learn them.
We all have to start somewhere. No matter where you are in life or for the purpose of this blog on your wellness journey you are Goals to someone out there and have a universal responsibility to show up in your life. I always joke with a friend of mine that she is “Goals” to me because she is able to wear dresses with her back out! LoL
A pivotal moment in any big girl’s wellness journey is not needing a seatbelt extender!
Do you know how many people can effortlessly fit comfortably in an airplane seat everyday who think their life and health are in shambles?
Perspective is everything. We all have our ish.
There are going to be some hard days some great days some WTF days. We are all living a version of someone’s best life but our hard days are the days that will ultimately define who we are and what we are made of.
One decision can change your entire life.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
Mia The Diva
Hey Divas,
We show up for everyone and everything. Who’s been there? Who is there?
How are you showing up for you? How we show up for ourselves is a direct reflection of the value we place on our lives.
I can only speak for myself but l’ve spent a great deal of my life showing up for everyone and everything but me. Even on my own wellness journey. There comes a point when a decision is made for you even when you do not make it on your own.
One of the many things l learned from my father was if you don’t make a decision a decision will be made for you. He was right. Look at your life. Is this what you want? What we are “ signing up “ for is a direct reflection of our choices.
So dear diva if you are stuck feeling some kind of way because someone hurt your feelings, upset you or maybe life isn’t going in the direction you want to go or maybe you’re doing things you don’t necessarily want to do take heart but it’s time to pull ourselves together!
Here are 5 ways to get started on Showing Up in your Life!
1. Know who TF you are. – We’ve all had that moment when someone or something got us pardon me .. …F**ckd up there really is no other words to use here. We’ve all had someone come at us crazy because they thought they could or walk all over you because we allowed it.
Did you feel hurt, angry and not say anything or did you check them on the spot?
Regardless of how you handled it bring that energy, bring her out on the regular and as needed reminders need to go out and everyone needs to be put on notice that you are here and that you are for real. Being that b*** comes with consequences.
2. You got this! Speak Life into yourself. – speak to yourself as you would your best friend. Nobody got you like you got you boo! Ummmkay. Enough people come at you crazy or try you. You are your own best Ally and protector.
After the age of 18 no one tells us to parent ourselves but we must become our own parent. Nobody is going to live this life for us, become your own Mama Bear guard yourself with your life.
3. What do you want? 2 years from now what is your ideal life? How does it look? What places are you going to? Who are you spending time with? What things are you doing? Really think about it. This is what we are showing up for after all. Our Lives.
4. Set Goals.– Yes goals, goals, goals an FBJ staple. Goals are our roadmap to get to where we want to go. Google SMART GOALS formula if you need help where to start or how to start setting some goals for yourself.
5. Take action on your goals daily! However that looks the little things we do everyday add up to big things over time. So this can be a life of doing Big Thangs or a life of Big Problems! You get to decide.
So make this TIME & make this LIFE work for you dear Diva, we can replace everything in life except for our loved ones & time.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You.
Mia The Diva
Hey Divas,
So here we are 70+ days into meditation practicing. Shout out to Teresa, Diva Spice with a lil Chai for getting me hip to guided meditation zoning in to zone out.
Breath is life. We would die if we go more than 5 minutes or so without it. None of this life is happening without breath. Practicing meditation has taught me that.
I had done some hot yoga years ago it was my first introduction to meditation then just really started learning about it for the past year or so.
I recently started practicing daily for a little over a month now when l rise, a mid day when l can and before bed.
I definitely needed to take a step back. I was in a space of feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and overall sense of being stuck in my life. I’ve spent my entire adult life catering to everyone and everything but me. – Not a good look for a Diva!
It left me feeling taken for granted and l felt used most of the time. I had to be honest with myself that 75% of my motivation was people pleasing. Then l woke up and realized l don’t owe anyone anything as they don’t owe me.
When we lose people in our life by death or by choice it leaves room. It leaves space. I’ve learned to embrace the emptiness l even welcome it most of the time. I ask myself ok, what’s next?
Honestly All I have to do is live and die and l plan on doing just that. Keeping it Fly n Fabulous! Of course.
Daily Meditation has given me the gift of how to fill the holes of my soul. lt has given me the gift of truly loving myself. It is the most private intimate experience to have with yourself just being present with your breath and in tune with your body. It truly means to surrender to the moment.
To my surprise l am able to meditate in as little of 5 minutes to 15 minutes. It is the ultimate form of self care, self love but most importantly self compassion.
When we love on ourselves it literally flows into every aspect of our life. The overflow goes to everyone and everything instead of us pulling from ourselves. It pulls us within ourselves. Having an awareness of self gives us choices.
To overextended ourselves and not have any boundaries is the ultimate betrayal. The betrayal of self. Anyone can turn their back on you. People will disappoint you. It’s Life. To turn your back on yourself is the ultimate betrayal because you will never rise higher than your own standards.
I challenge you to stop. To pause. To take a deep breath in of all the goodness in your life and exhale all of what is no longer serving you in your life! Lay down and line up those chakra stones and gets to breathing dear diva!
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
Namaste.
Mia The Diva
Hey Divas!
Ever-since hitting the 40+ Club self care has been such an integral part of my wellness journey. I wasn’t ready for what this decade has delivered but my focus at this point is to enjoy what is left of this decade physically, mentally, and emotionally.
So just as important as it is to work out everyday self care is just as important. Working from home these past two years and being isolated most of the time l’ve had to readjust and adapt like the rest of the world. So like the saying goes “ It is what it is until it’s not. “
This season of my life is all about connecting the dots, being intentional with my routines and mindful about my workouts.
I pay attention to my moods when l feel great and not so great. I pay attention to how much sleep l’m getting. You know grown folks ish.
I intentionally watch the news my biggest “ adulting “ moment so far.
I don’t just want to look better l want to feel Fabulous too! I made a promise to myself when l turned 40 that this is the decade that l claim my life by taking care of myself and l am doing exactly that!
It’s been challenging meeting my shift in mindset due to life ish. I’m a work in progress and still struggle to be consistent in all areas of my daily routine.
In the meantime celebrating my wins growing through my obstacles and giving myself grace during this season in my life.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
Mia The Diva
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