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Grieving the loss of loved ones, pets, friends, and relationships is challenging. Grief doesn’t just rob you of who you love it robs you of the person you were with them.
Ultimately, losing yourself is the hardest part. The loss of identity is by far the greatest heartbreak of them all. It’s like a glass ball that symbolizes your life has been dropped and shattered onto the floor.
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It seems every time I hit my stride and get back into the swing of things life continues to happen.
In short no matter how much I tried to be “normal” I wasn’t. Life has changed & I have changed.
These past several years I have been navigating my new normal through grief. My new life is very different from what I imagined it to be. But I am still here and making it through!
Grief Journey Update: This year marks 7 years since my father’s death.
Today is my Dad’s 77th Birthday and 7 was his favorite number. Some years, I feel okay through the Holidays, Father’s Day, his Birthday and Life Moments. I get by and manage through it. But this year, I’ve really missed my dad.
During these past 7 years, I did not have an opportunity to truly grieve. Being capable of grieving in peace is a blessing.
Don’t ever let anyone or any circumstance rob you of this experience, grief is as personal as it is sacred. Protect your peace and heart at all costs, take care of you.
I had the privilege of getting to know my Dad as a person. It was just the two of us for a lot of years after Mom died.
He was so much more than my father, he was my best friend. I had the honor of witnessing him as an imperfect human. He faced his fears and gained confidence within his boundaries.
He accepted growing old with grace and humor. He truly lived his life on his own terms. I loved him completely. My entire heart was filled with love for him.
He was one of the kindest and gentlest human beings I have ever had the honor of getting to know. He was 5ft 7, maybe 5ft 8 on a good day. Lol. But he was larger than life through my eyes. I saw him this way even as a grown woman well into in her thirties.
Through my father I learned that masculinity is not only the physical strength of a man. It is also about how to treat a lady, help raise a family, or have the ability to give & provide support.
My father showed me that masculinity is also carried through the strength of a sharp mind. It’s also about having a nurturing heart and a caring soul.
Throughout his life, he showed kindness to others, sometimes at his own expense. Witnessing him finally give himself grace and be raw in his vulnerabilities made me see him more than my Dad.
How he navigated struggling through his own grief journey and personal challenges, was ultimately the greatest lesson learned from him.
What I’ve learned about grief over the years
Grief is the final gift of love because the growth that we experience as a human being is priceless. Grief is an expression of love and through the grieving process we transform into becoming our best self.
If we accept it, grief, no matter the form, is one of life’s greatest gifts. It is truly a blessing from God. The human-being we become in the process is a testament of what Grace and Love truly is.
Reconnecting to what brings me joy after grief
It’s a journey. I am in a space of reconnecting with what brings me joy. I am living a life that aligns with that joy. While I’ve been away, I’ve been focusing on rebuilding my life. I am learning how it looks now and where I am going.
This season of grief was a whirlwind of emotions and navigating unresolved trauma. This experience has left with me with being capable of giving the gift of patience, presence and empathy.
The other side of grief can be just as painful. I navigated grief and worked on myself. After this journey, I realized why things played out the way they did. I understood the role I played in my life. Everything really does happen for a reason, even if you do not understand it at the time.
Grieving the loss of loved ones, pets, friends, and relationships is challenging. Grief doesn’t just rob you of who you love it robs you of the person you were with them.
Ultimately, losing yourself is the hardest part. The loss of identity is by far the greatest heartbreak of them all. It’s like a glass ball that symbolizes your life has been dropped and shattered onto the floor.
We have two choices. We can try to piece it and glue it back together. We can make it a disco ball. Or, we can move on. Moving on is another heartbreak in itself but sometimes necessary.
When people show you who they are, believe them. This is who they truly are. Even if your heart is in denial, you have to protect your energy.
Navigating Grief is not all doom and gloom. I promise you. Grief and happiness can coexist. I’ve learned over the years that it’s normal and healthy to feel happiness and sadness especially after losing a loved one and during big life changes.
Grief doesn’t mean you’ll never smile again, finding moments of joy and being intentional about experiencing it is healing.
Finding and doing the things that bring me joy is by far has been my biggest grief hack!
The Good News About Grief
The good news about grief is that as long as we are here, we have the choice. We can live life on our own terms. We get this choice as long as we have breath in our body.
The beauty of going through grief is that you get to see a new version of yourself. This happens if you are lucky. You get to experience yourself on the other side. You can really create an authentic life that you truly love!
Horseshoe Bend – Paige, Arizona
Horseshoe Bend –
Paige, Arizona
Health Update: Walking for Mental Health, Clarity and Eating Cleaner to help lower my A1C levels.
I’ve been dealing with grief and stress. They have been affecting my health. A step outside into some sunshine and fresh air is the cure-all when I’m feeling in a slump. I’ve absolutely fallen in love with walking! It is just as important for physical health as it is for mental health. It also enhances overall wellness.
For several years, I’ve been in pre-diabetes. Recently, my A1C test is high. It’s just one point away from a diagnosis. My goal is to manage it through nutrition and lifestyle changes.
I’m working on lowering my A1C and aim to walk 2 miles daily, now managing 1 mile easily. It’s been several challenging years, but we’re still here and getting things done!
A Diva’s gotta watch her suggas so daily walking it is! My goal is to get my A1C levels down to a solid 5.7 or better. I aim to manage my blood sugars by lifestyle and not meds. I’m now at 6.3 from my last labwork a year ago so it’s a stretch but doable. It’s always best to stay ahead of things as much as we can.
During these past couple of years, working from home and becoming a homebody, I have not been as active. I am now in a space of life where I navigate a changing body.
Hormonal changes and a family history, which I believe have contributed to the higher A1C levels are at play. It also gets really, really — really comfortable being at home. AND. I’m an introvert to boot!
I can literally be unbothered for weeks. I truly vibe alone nestled away in my diva bungalow. I make a cameo here and there. But that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily healthy.
This journey is not linear; it’s two steps forward and two steps back. There are pauses, turns, and curves, all for the plot I suppose. It helps my brain make sense of all this. I’m finally starting to feel like myself. I’m getting back to me and figuring out what’s next.
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Mia The Diva
Hey Divas,
Hello June!
In the words of my Grandma Mercedes;
“ What is for you is for you.”
Sometimes we over think things, life happens and everything that happens is meant to happen even when we don’t understand it.
Everything is eventual.
So with that said you can’t mess anything up even when you try. Everything has a way of working out one way or another.
Life is about the moments, feeling all the feels & true happiness comes from overcoming what you thought would break you.
I’m in a space of life that l am thinking back. I have a few regrets, a lot of good times, a few hard times, times l was extremely happy and times l was extremely sad.
Through it all l’m exactly where l need to be. We can get caught up in the idea that we had of life and how life was expected to play out for us. Ultimately we have no control over any of this as much as we like to think we do.
We have control over how we are showing up for ourselves and we have control over what we stand for.
We have control over our own standards & know that we can never rise above it.
So when you’re getting caught up in your feelings & self judgement take heart that you can’t mess it up when you show up for yourself and your life.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You ~
Mia The Diva
Hey Divas,
Here l am getting back on track. The art of allowing. I’m in a space of life where l don’t have to get it all right. I’ve lived enough life to know what l like and what l don’t for the most part.
I know that l don’t like feeling tired and tapped out. I don’t like feeling drained. I don’t like feeling stressed, even though it’s healthy sometimes and a part of life. I do like how l feel after eating right and clean. I do like when l am actually on time for things. It reduces my stress and l am able to be fully present.
The sacrifice to eating clean is the prepping. It takes time and l am working on ways to perfect it to balance it in my life. If I don’t plan I go straight to what’s most convenient or miss a meal. Not a good look for a diva! lt’s all a work in progress but I take things day by day.
I’ve been chronicling my journey and got off track these past couple of weeks after losing my Uncle to cancer. I would think by now l would have this grief thing down but with every death a piece of me dies too. Every death is painful no matter how much you prepare for it. You’re never prepared when it actually happens.
My Uncle was a second Dad to me. He was the version of my Dad who broke all the rules. He lived in his truth and unapologetically.
Everything is eventual. This one hurts so bad.
I’m staying on the course and not allow grief to get me off the course. I’m in a space of life that l understand death is a reality of life as it is necessary and natural but it doesn’t take away the hurt.
I’m learning to process death while still keeping my priorities in tact by having goals but more so than that making a commitment to them because without making a commitment it just adds to the list of failures.
Set realistic goals and expectations. It’s okay—and healthy—to realize you cannot be 100% successful at everything all at once. Be mindful of the things you can control and work on accepting the things that you can’t control.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You
Mia The Diva
Hi Divas,
About this week.🖤
It’s been a tough one.
When those close to me hurt. I hurt. When a loved one is lost there really are no words of comfort that can be offered. Only your love and support.
Many of us are losing our loved ones primarily our parents. A change of the guard. It’s a part of life but losing a parent is losing a piece of your identity. We revert back to being a child in that moment no matter our age. When l lost my Mom almost 20 years ago l thought l had this death and grief thing down. I was painfully wrong.
Losing my second parent in 2018 almost took me out. The emptiness l felt was insurmountable. My father and l were extremely close especially after my Mom died we leaned on each other.
I learned that l had a lot of unresolved issues that came to the surface after his death. It has been my greatest blessing thus far of discovering who l truly am and what l’m made of.
We never truly grow up until our parents are gone.I am grateful and blessed to have had amazing parents who did their very best providing me the tools to succeed in life. My greatest lesson l learned from them was simply observing how they lived.
When l see the post on my timeline of loved ones lost take heart that your pain is felt and that you are not alone. We will all lose someone near and dear to us at some point in our lives but know that ironically these experiences bring us closer to ourselves.
We are not from our parents but we do come through them in this life’s journey. It took me some time to grasp that concept.
Every season of life will require a new you. The most valuable words of wisdom was from my Grandfather.
He died at the age of 86 twenty-five years ago. One of his last words were “ Just when you figure it all out, it’s time to go.” I was young and did not truly understand this concept until now.
There is no rush to get it all right or figure it all out. I’m patient in allowing my life to unfold…
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
– Mia The Diva 💪🏽💕 xo
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