July 27, 2022
Mia The Diva
So as I shared in a previous post I gained 20 lbs during the pandemic. I had also lost my father 2 years prior to the world shut down and people in my life were showing me who they are and their true colors.
It was alot to deal with not dealing. Grieving can be exhausting and emotionally draining if you do not have a proper plan in place. Grieve with purpose either to be better or to get better.
There is no magic timeframe of the grieving process it can last anywhere from several days to several months to several years to a lifetime.
Time eventually does heal but more importantly it’s what we do with this time because at one point or another we will lose someone or something significant in our lives.
How will you deal?
One thing I have learned so far in my life’s journey is to always have a PLAN because if you do not have one like the saying says; plan to fail.
Although my failures have been some of my greatest blessings in life. l did not realize it at the time.
I feel like my life could have been so much easier and would have saved myself a lot of unnecessary pain if I had an awareness and the right tools to deal with life and its’ charade of shenanigans.
The fact is that life is going to happen and much of it we have no control over as much as we like to think we do.
What we do have control over however is how we are showing up and how we respond to life ish because the hard days will come and they will also —- go.
If you find yourself in a crappy space of life right now, take heart that it is not forever it is just right now.
I know it sucks.
Have faith that you will make it through dear diva.
Going through grief and life events can be a roller coaster of emotions it can also be a source of triggers especially if we’ve gone through something traumatic and haven’t properly dealt with it.
Grief is painful it can drain what’s left of our life if we don’t get it in check. There is nothing more painful than wasting our precious time.
So many of us cope with food when things are “ off “ in life some of us drugs, alcohol, binge watching our shows etc. doing anything we can do to not feel the feels of the insurmountable pain we are in. – @flybyjulyTweet
Avoidance can show up in so many ways but for the purpose of this blog food is our drug of choice.
The tough thing about food vs. drugs, booze or binge watching TV shows etc. is that we need food to sustain our life.
So where do we draw the line? When have we crossed the line?
Food serves so many roles in our lives; nutrition, socializing, creativity, connection, holiday gatherings the list goes on and on.
So when does a diva put the breaks on the fridge, the buffet, the online food delivery to your doorstep, the sushi nights, and those Sunday Brunches with your girls?
Where do we draw the line between I need to eat this to sustain my life, I need to eat this for my social needs, I need to eat this because I want to have fun. I need to eat this because I’m sad, I’m angry, I’m anxious or depressed.
4 Questions to ASK yourself before your EAT your Emotions Away
The next time you’re about to eat something ask yourself these four simple questions:
- H – Hungry? Am I actually hungry? Cause a Diva can get her GRUB on right about now!
- A – Anger am I angry? I’m mad, fed up and sick of everyone’s sh*t. Where’s the chips.
- L – Lonely am I lonely? Am I depressed? Ice Cream makes everything ok.
- T – Time am I busy? Do I just need something quick to get in my stomach? I’m always on the run! Just need something quick before I pass out.
What I love about these questions is that it raises awareness and when we have awareness we can make better choices.
It’s not overnight, the chips and ice cream will win somedays and that’s ok we may actually need the ice cream and the chips in that moment but not every moment.
As time goes on and we become more conscious of what we are putting into out body we can understand what’s driving us and we discover other ways to deal with our pain.
What’s Your Vice?
I love seafood. Sushi is my vice, I know not terribly unhealthy but the “ All You Can Eat “ can be too hard to resist on a diva and caused me to over eat too much at times, it can also be expensive.
It takes time dear diva to discover the code that will crack your vice. I like a lot of people am an emotional eater it served many purposes for me during some pretty dark moments in my life.
Emotional eating isn’t always sitting in a dark room with a bucket of ice cream it can be snacking, going out to eat in excess, still eating when we’re not hungry or even when a diva is just bored.
When I was feeling especially isolated I would go out for sushi two to three times a week. I now go once a month as a treat and order half rolls because I honestly love sushi even when I’m truly happy it is one of my favorite things to do.
Over time I now picked up taking a drawing class again, something that is nostalgic that reminds me of my earlier days it gets me out of the house l’m able to express my creativity and it allows me to be social.
I use to go out and eat sushi to connect and catch up with my friends. I have great memories having sushi with my friends. The pandemic happened. Life changed and then I found myself in a space where I was alone and would go out by myself to feel better.
I would go out to eat just to get out of the house, see some people even if they were strangers so I did not have to be at home looking at my 4 walls anxious and depressed.
Not a good look for a diva! So I swapped my solo sushi dates for art class.
So take some time to reflect. What can you swap your VICE for? What’s a lost hobby you have? Is there a big project that you’ve been wanting to tackle?
Once you ask yourself these 4 simple H A L T questions before you grab that bag of chips or whatever your vice you will be able to eat a little bit more mindfully and hopefully have some clarity on what’s bugging you so that you can make some better choices on your journey to flyness!
Diva on a journey! 💪🏽💕 This week’s goal: Making time for movement during my day
So circling back from last post I did not quite make it getting up 1.5 hours early everyday it was too early for me to start working out but I do have the habit of getting up early, making my juice and smoothie for the day.
I realized what was stopping me was organization. It’s probably a Virgo thing but I crave stucture in all aspects of my life so why wouldn’t my wellness journey be any different. I did not hit my intended goal but I did learn more about my self and what is working and what’s not on this journey.
So going into this week with my new found knowledge, I’ll be gettin’ it in! My movements that is 😜 anywhere I can.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
Mia The Diva
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