Posts tagged ‘Lifestyle change’
Hey Divas,
Summer is here!
Have we reached our Hot Girl Summer Goals Divas? Fly Guys, how we sportin those short shorts?
The burning question: Can I reshape my body in my forties? So as of the end of the summer I will be on the other side of 40. As I approach my 45th trip around the sun by the end of summer I don’t know the short answer to this question for me but I am willing to make this body do what it does this next round.
So last year I set out a goal and created a whole IG account dedicated to my personal wellness journey so much has happened in a year although I have made great strides. I find myself physically in the same space I was a year ago.
Not a good look for a diva!
The point is Life is going to happen. Sh*t is going to happen. I would find myself pausing after every life kick up and set back.
Life is going to happen, there will always be something and things will not always go as planned. It’s in the unexplained, the unexpected and the things that just do not make any sense is where we find our stride.
Sometimes we have to humble ourselves and put down our super hero capes, our fantasy of life was to be and just be like hey, I’m here. I’m alive. As long as I have breath in my body there are things that I need to be doing.
My presence is enough. All we have to do is live and die. It really isn’t that complicated NOT survive and die but LIVE and die.
Giving myself some grace. I have learned so much this past year and will be going in with an eyes wide open approach.
I’ve learned the stuff and have done the things not starting over but starting again. Knowledge means absolutely nothing if you are not putting it into action.
So here we are a fresh start again, we can always begin to begin again but your girl is tired.
This will definitely be a year of focus and I focus on not only my body but my whole life. I invite you as I go on this journey for the next 365 days so if you are in a space of life that you just need to get it together this is the space for you, the space for us.
So if you’re just getting into your 40’s or it’s near looming in the bushes or maybe you’re knee deep in your 40’s like me or maybe you’re about to wrap this decade like a Christmas Tree heading into that Fabulous 50 season this is our time Divas!
We have had our good times, the love of our life, the family or desired having one at one point, we have made the mistakes, have lost loved ones, have had our hearts broken, have learned the lessons & have ultimately grown-up.
We are here ladies. We are here.
Fly Guys this message applies to you too! We see you and them “ Hoochie Daddy short shorts. ”
I use the word heal and healing sparingly because we were never broken.
We grow & We grown. Yea I said it.
I totally feel like I have super powers in this space of life. I feel the most comfortable in my skin and self assured. I have a complete acceptance of life and it’s f___kery.
AND you know what.
– It’s ok.
Like the saying goes it is what it is until it’s not.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
Mia The Diva
Hey Divas,
Hello June!
In the words of my Grandma Mercedes;
“ What is for you is for you.”
Sometimes we over think things, life happens and everything that happens is meant to happen even when we don’t understand it.
Everything is eventual.
So with that said you can’t mess anything up even when you try. Everything has a way of working out one way or another.
Life is about the moments, feeling all the feels & true happiness comes from overcoming what you thought would break you.
I’m in a space of life that l am thinking back. I have a few regrets, a lot of good times, a few hard times, times l was extremely happy and times l was extremely sad.
Through it all l’m exactly where l need to be. We can get caught up in the idea that we had of life and how life was expected to play out for us. Ultimately we have no control over any of this as much as we like to think we do.
We have control over how we are showing up for ourselves and we have control over what we stand for.
We have control over our own standards & know that we can never rise above it.
So when you’re getting caught up in your feelings & self judgement take heart that you can’t mess it up when you show up for yourself and your life.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You ~
Mia The Diva
I read post on my time line that was discussing political view points but ended with;
“ Anyway, never forget, even at your lowest point you’re living someone else’s dream.”
I have been back and forth with this blog for years. Somehow when things are off and get off track in my life. I always find my way back to this space. There is a saying that life will teach you the same lessons over and over until you learn them.
We all have to start somewhere. No matter where you are in life or for the purpose of this blog on your wellness journey you are Goals to someone out there and have a universal responsibility to show up in your life. I always joke with a friend of mine that she is “Goals” to me because she is able to wear dresses with her back out! LoL
A pivotal moment in any big girl’s wellness journey is not needing a seatbelt extender!
Do you know how many people can effortlessly fit comfortably in an airplane seat everyday who think their life and health are in shambles?
Perspective is everything. We all have our ish.
There are going to be some hard days some great days some WTF days. We are all living a version of someone’s best life but our hard days are the days that will ultimately define who we are and what we are made of.
One decision can change your entire life.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
Mia The Diva
Hey Divas,
So here we are 70+ days into meditation practicing. Shout out to Teresa, Diva Spice with a lil Chai for getting me hip to guided meditation zoning in to zone out.
Breath is life. We would die if we go more than 5 minutes or so without it. None of this life is happening without breath. Practicing meditation has taught me that.
I had done some hot yoga years ago it was my first introduction to meditation then just really started learning about it for the past year or so.
I recently started practicing daily for a little over a month now when l rise, a mid day when l can and before bed.
I definitely needed to take a step back. I was in a space of feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and overall sense of being stuck in my life. I’ve spent my entire adult life catering to everyone and everything but me. – Not a good look for a Diva!
It left me feeling taken for granted and l felt used most of the time. I had to be honest with myself that 75% of my motivation was people pleasing. Then l woke up and realized l don’t owe anyone anything as they don’t owe me.
When we lose people in our life by death or by choice it leaves room. It leaves space. I’ve learned to embrace the emptiness l even welcome it most of the time. I ask myself ok, what’s next?
Honestly All I have to do is live and die and l plan on doing just that. Keeping it Fly n Fabulous! Of course.
Daily Meditation has given me the gift of how to fill the holes of my soul. lt has given me the gift of truly loving myself. It is the most private intimate experience to have with yourself just being present with your breath and in tune with your body. It truly means to surrender to the moment.
To my surprise l am able to meditate in as little of 5 minutes to 15 minutes. It is the ultimate form of self care, self love but most importantly self compassion.
When we love on ourselves it literally flows into every aspect of our life. The overflow goes to everyone and everything instead of us pulling from ourselves. It pulls us within ourselves. Having an awareness of self gives us choices.
To overextended ourselves and not have any boundaries is the ultimate betrayal. The betrayal of self. Anyone can turn their back on you. People will disappoint you. It’s Life. To turn your back on yourself is the ultimate betrayal because you will never rise higher than your own standards.
I challenge you to stop. To pause. To take a deep breath in of all the goodness in your life and exhale all of what is no longer serving you in your life! Lay down and line up those chakra stones and gets to breathing dear diva!
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
Namaste.
Mia The Diva
Hey Divas!
Ever-since hitting the 40+ Club self care has been such an integral part of my wellness journey. I wasn’t ready for what this decade has delivered but my focus at this point is to enjoy what is left of this decade physically, mentally, and emotionally.
So just as important as it is to work out everyday self care is just as important. Working from home these past two years and being isolated most of the time l’ve had to readjust and adapt like the rest of the world. So like the saying goes “ It is what it is until it’s not. “
This season of my life is all about connecting the dots, being intentional with my routines and mindful about my workouts.
I pay attention to my moods when l feel great and not so great. I pay attention to how much sleep l’m getting. You know grown folks ish.
I intentionally watch the news my biggest “ adulting “ moment so far.
I don’t just want to look better l want to feel Fabulous too! I made a promise to myself when l turned 40 that this is the decade that l claim my life by taking care of myself and l am doing exactly that!
It’s been challenging meeting my shift in mindset due to life ish. I’m a work in progress and still struggle to be consistent in all areas of my daily routine.
In the meantime celebrating my wins growing through my obstacles and giving myself grace during this season in my life.
Be Healthy Be Fabulous Be You!
Mia The Diva
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